Exude the 'Tude!

Subj: Do you have the ‘Tude? Here’s why you should

Today I am going to reveal to you one of the most powerful partsof the Women Approach You Formula. It might also be the most fun,and you’ll definitely love the results.
What is it? Simply this: the ‘Tude.

Like some of you reading this, I grew up in the 80’s,when the hard rock and heavy metal scene was in full swing. Everywhere you went there were girls, girls, girls, all wearinghigh heels, tight mini skirts, and fishnet stockings. It was a great time to be alive. There was a vibe, an energy, and an Attitude.

Women were irresistibly attracted to men who exuded The ‘Tude,and as a friend of mine recently said, “Even Mooks got in on the action.”(Mook—that’s a word I haven’t heard in a long, long time).

However, as the 90’s rolled around and Rock N Roll was replacedby a bunch of whiners moaning about how bad life was, the ‘Tude was lost. Instead of men walking around with their heads held highand their chests out, you now had girlie men shuffling their feet, lookingat the ground, avoiding eye contact, slouching their shoulders and mumbling whenever someone talked to them.

Worse, as the girlie men seeped into the popular media, everyone startedbashing guys with the ‘Tude, and it soon vanished, replaced by soft,spineless sensitive wimps who were in touch with their feelings. After all,that’s what the media said women wanted.

I’m embarrassed to admit that for a time I actually believed this myself,and went out of my way to be a “nice guy” to women. Heck, I thoughtit was what they wanted… at least that’s what the media told me. But I was constantly frustrated because I had lots of great female friends, butnone of them were attracted to me (even though they all said I was a “great catch”).

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THEN SOMETHING STRANGE HAPPENED
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One day, in the early 2000’s, I was walking outside my apartment whena fellow resident asked me if I could help him move some furniture. I said,“sure” and helped him lug a very heavy bookshelf up the stairs.

When I got inside, I noticed he had an enormous CD collection, all hard rockand metal from the ‘80s. But he had something else- -he had videotapes of Headbangers Ball circa 1986. I told him I was a big fan of thatera, and asked him to play one of the video tapes.

I only intended to stay for about 20 minutes, but wound up hanging outfor over 3 hours, watching videos I hadn’t seen in over 15 years.

Man, did the memories come flooding back. You see, what was coolabout watching those video tapes was you got to experience the whole sceneagain, what was going on at the time. You got to see the hits of the dayin conjunction with the obscure songs of the moment. It was almost likegoing back in time to a long forgotten era.

As I watched that tape, I realized something, felt something I hadn’t feltin many years… the ‘Tude. All the bands on those videos had the ‘Tude, and…

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WOMEN WERE LUSTING AFTER THEM LIKE CRAZY
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So, just to test a theory, I started to re-adopt the ‘Tude, to see if it would workin the current environment. I started acting playful and naughty, startedacting a bit brash and outrageous, started letting women know that yes, I was a MAN, and yes, I just might be interested in them IF they were naughty enough for me. In other words, I did the OPPOSITE of what the girlie men in the media said I should do!

The effects were sudden and dramatic—women started chasing me like youcouldn’t believe. Young women, too-- women who hadn’t experienced the scene.They couldn’t put their finger on it, but they told me they loved hanging outwith me because I was a “cool guy,” and not a whiner like all the guys who kept chasing them. The ‘Tude was more effective than ever, because no one else had it!

Now, it’s kind of hard for me to explain the ‘Tude to you in an email. And truthfully,it’s something that takes just a little while to understand. But once you “get it,” andadapt it to your own unique style, women will literally flock to you.

If and when I decide to teach the entire Women Approach You Formula, there willdefinitely be a detailed part on using the ‘Tude, no matter if you want to attract lotsof fun women, or that special one (it works for both, even better in fact, if you want toattract that one special woman for a lifetime relationship).

But in the meantime, I have a real treat for you. By the magic of YouTube, I canactually show you some examples of the ‘Tude, and you can model it for yourself.

Now, the ‘Tude can be manifested in different ways—if you’re not a fan of 80’sMetal, there are plenty of other great examples to learn from, and I’m going toinclude some of them.

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THESE DRIVE THE GIRLIE MEN IN THE MEDIA INSANE
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When you watch these videos, the thing you want to look for is the energy, intent, feel, and for lack of a better word, “vibe” from all these videos. Look for commonalities—that’s what’s most important. Then begin to adapt the ones that “feel right” to you for yourself. That’s when you’ll start to see results.

Here are a few of my favorite examples of videos that “Exude the ‘Tude.” There are plenty more of them, but these will get you started. If you want to add to this list, just go to my blog at…
http://www.johnalanisblog.com/

…and add to them in the comments section. You guys can probably find somegreat ones I’ve forgotten about or overlooked, and I’d love to hear your suggestions.Just one rule though—no whiney alternative freakboy videos from the 90’s… I can’tstand that garbage.

Anyways, these links go directly to YouTube and some could be removed by the time youget there. But just search on the band and the song, and you’ll find it. You can also get your hands on these songs at Itunes, and listen to them in your Ipod.That way you’ll constantly reinforce what the ‘Tude is.

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HERE ARE THE VIDEOS THAT “EXUDE THE ‘TUDE”
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The Strong Will Always Rock: Tribute to 80’s Metal—this video gives you a great idea of the ‘Tude, since it’s a montage of video clips back to back.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rmckJ_4HflA

Wild, Young and Crazy by Hericane Alice

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XZupXHtopK0
Live Wire by Motely Crue.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gjh562Kwul4

Lovin’ You’s a Dirty Job (and I’m the Man to Do It) by Ratt

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0zWANS4YdvA

Wild Child by WASP

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TsoLb-E7oy8

Look What the Cat Dragged In by Poison

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wB8oEbneRm4

So Many Girls, So Little Time by Keel

(no video posted for this one, but it’s worth finding the song).

After you’ve watched the videos with the sound on, turn off the sound andwatch them again. Then just listen to the music without watching the video.See if you can pick up on a common ‘vibe, a common feeling from all of them.Focus on that… that’s the ‘Tude.

Now, after you’ve watched those videos, go watch some movie clips (or full movies)featuring David Niven, Sean Connery, Frank Sinatra, Paul Newman and Clint Eastwood. While their styles are vastly different from the 80’s videos, what’s important is the attitude they all have in common. Again, watch them with the sound on, the sound off, then sound only.

Watch and listen for commonalities between all of them. Pay close attention to these commonalities, and model them for yourself (I’ve attracted a lot of women with the Paul Newman smile in Cool Hand Luke, for example).

It will take time and practice, but you will eventually develop your own version of the ‘Tude, then you can start to automatically… Exude the ‘Tude!

When that happens…

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WATCH OUT-- YOU MUST BE CAREFUL NOT TO ATTRACT TOO MANY WOMEN TOO FAST!
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…and that’s no joke.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you…

On with the fun….

-John Alanis“The King of Let ‘em Come to You”

PS If you come across any other great video examples of the ‘Tude, no matter the era be sure to share them with your fellow doers by posting them on my blog at

http://www.johnalanisblog.com/

Also, here’s a few “bonus videos” for you—they’re not quiteas “hard” as the ones above, but if you were around when I wasyou’ll immediately recognize them as soon as you hear the firstfew notes… and then the memories will come flooding back.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_qkB07VSwU

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lrVvi64PvOs

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I1LWnSfpON0

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGPNQsLSBNQ&feature=related

PPS I’m going to be doing some Q and A soon, so if you have questions, send them to meat questions@johnalanis.com